Relationships. I am baffled by so many friends' choices to be in an unhappy relationship. Not completely baffled...the media and hollywood have a lot to answer for, but mystified at the tendency of seemingly intelligent people to live in some romcom twilight zone. If it isn't working now, the chances are, it won't. I have friends who have been struggling for years to work things out; trying to change their partners or themselves. It seems like a grand waste of energy. Happiness is a choice and life is short. I'm not talking about hiccups, I'm talking about being in love with the idea of someone and never realising that it is only your idea of who you want them to be. I think Mumford & Sons just hit the nail on the head..."But I can't move the mountains for you". Money, marriage, children, a new job etc. aren't going to change your fundamental needs. You have to know that you want basically the same things. That you are moving in a similar direction with similar morals and values. Not that you both won't grow and change, just that you will grow together. It's not as difficult as it seems. Be honest with yourself and your partner. Gut- wrenchingly honest. And if you're scared, being alone is empowering, reflective and gives you perspective on what you really want. Love is everything only when it's reciprocated.
Wow...think I have been babbling...here's a superquick recipe for smoked salmon pasta sauce. serves 4. Chop 8-10 baby leeks and sweat them in butter in a saucepan on a med-low heat for about 5 mins. Add a splash of dry white wine and increase temperature to burn off alcohol. Lower temperature again and add 100g chopped smoked salmon, zest of 1 lemon and a handful of chopped parsley. Warm through until fragrant, remove from heat and stir in 125 ml Greek yoghurt. Serve with fresh linguine/tagliatelle and pecorino shavings. Enjoy
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